I know it’s been awhile since I’ve blogged, but within the past 5 months – many great things have occurred and have kept me busy focusing on ‘doing’ rather than writing!
With a lot of self-reflection, I have realized that I have come into my own while growing into my 30’s, but still feeling somewhat 20-ish. I would say that is a good thing! I am experiencing monumental moments that should have happened in my 20’s, but making smarter decisions leading up to those instants.
Although my childhood history was not the most nurturing and at times volatile, many of my current goals were put on hold until I was able to get my shit together. Thus meaning, living life to survive, making good and bad choices, and living with the consequences of those decisions.
I spent my early 30’s fixing my earlier mistakes while trying to push forward on bettering myself with college education and adult life experiences. Although I am about 10 years behind in my goals (according to society’s standards) I am finding that I have made more calculating and thoughtful decisions surrounding education, finances, relationships and friendships. I wouldn’t say that my deviated path was ideal, but a more direct course would have been preferred.
As they say, “Nothing in life comes easy.” A.K.A. Story of my life, but the positive that has come out of my ‘late-blooming’ is that I am more confident in myself and my abilities. Below is a little tidbit of what I have come to know and genuinely embrace. It sure feels good to live and let go!
- Do me and follow my own path
- Live life for myself and not others
- Staying true to my standards when choosing a partner and friends
- Caring less about what people think of me
- Not giving a shit if someone sees me in public without makeup and in sweats/hoodie
- Work/play balance
- A day’s rest between each ‘play’ day to recharge
- Schedule party-time on Fridays, so I can recover by Sunday
- Selective about job/career choices to include growth and promotion
- Ask for what you want, always negotiate
If I could go use the “Back to the Future” DeLorean and go back in time, I would give myself the following list.
Tips for my 20-something self:
- Drink more water
- Wait on that tattoo
- Hit the gym; join an organized sport
- Take more college night classes
- Use face moisturizer, daily
- Stop worrying about the future
- Live life a quarter mile at a time
- Travel outside the U.S.
- Maintain friendships
- Invest/grow savings account
Although these lists are personal to my life, I would hope that this blog would inspire those that have put off life and goals for whatever reason – it truly is never too late to accomplish what you deserve.
Personal success can happen at any time, any age, and any moment. The first step is – making that call to someone, sign up for that class you’ve been wanting to take, book your dream trip, find that home you’ve been wanting to buy, the list goes on.
A great quote below to further encourage, support and motivate.
“One of the most courageous things you can do is identify yourself, know who you are, what you believe in and where you want to go.” — Sheila Murray Bethel